6 Tips for Becoming More Resilient

At Well Within, many of our clients suffer from physical symptoms as a result of stress in their lives. We asked our colleague David Poles, LMHC for some advice about coping with stress. David promotes and teaches resiliency with his clients.

David, what is “resiliency”?

“Resiliency is a life skill that helps us bounce back from stress. It refers to the ability to cope well with high levels of ongoing, disruptive change. It means being able to sustain good health and energy when under constant pressure. It’s about bouncing back from setbacks, overcoming adversity or challenges, and changing the way we doing things when the old way is no longer possible. Resiliency means doing all of the above without acting in dysfunctional or harmful ways such as using drugs, relying on alcohol, or engaging in reckless behavior.”

How do you become more Resilient?

“Resiliency is a learned skill that requires you to take care of all aspects of yourself.”

There are some tried and true methods for becoming more resilient, and Annie Gourlie, LMT and Dave Poles collaborated to create:

6 Tips for Becoming More Resilient.

1. Develop healthy relationships with other healthy people who are supportive of you (i.e. a family member, a friend, a therapist, a healthcare practitioner, or a priest).

2. Honor the mind-body connection. What we do – or don’t do – with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

3. Develop a sense of spirituality. Engage in activities such as attending religious services, meditating, taking a walk in the woods, visiting the ocean, or listening to music.

4. Learn how to reframe. Reframing is at the heart of resilience. It is about having a healthy perspective. It is a way of shifting focus from the cup half empty to the cup half full. Reframing helps one become more optimistic.

5. Take time for yourself each day. Enjoy a warm bath, read a book, get a massage, or take an hour for lunch.

6. Express gratitude whenever possible. Too often, we take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.

Annie Gourlie, LMT, MA loves working as a massage therapist! She was first introduced to resilience was during her studies about Sustainability and the Environment. An ecosystem must remain resilient so that it can adapt to changes in its environment. In the same way, our bodies are mini-ecosystems constantly adapting to change. Annie’s favorite tip for remaining resilient; “keep your immune system strong!

David Poles, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor based out of Newton Centre, MA. He specializes in teaching both adolescent and adult males how to understand, manage and reduce painful emotions while staying sober. He also gives education and support to loved ones of his male clients. Read more about David’s practice at www.NewtonCounselingCenter.org